Hey everyone! Welcome back to Lavendaire. It’s Aileen. Today I want to share six books
that have changed my life. And I’m really excited because, looking at these books, they each represent a time period of my life. Each book is kind of part of a chapter of my life. It really is kind of like a time capsule. The first book is Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. This was a book that I read in college, maybe
my junior year of college. I don’t know if you guys are familiar with this book but it’s basically a memoir of Elizabeth Gilbert’s life when she was getting out of a divorce and
going soul searching. Anyway, one of the countries that she goes to is Italy, and she talks about eating a pizza in Naples. And reading this book really, really made
me want to go to Italy. So when it was time for me to choose what
my choice study abroad program was, I put Milan as my first choice. So that’s what happened: My senior year of college, I went to Milan
to study international business. I really went there to soul search myself. This book basically gave me an introduction
to what soul searching was. I don’t even think I realized that people did this: quit their life, travel the world to find themselves. So anyway, I kind of had that dream myself, that I needed to get out of my life in LA,
travel, and find myself. So that is what I did, and when I went to
Italy, that’s when I felt so free. I had more time to start reading self help books. That was the period of my life where I was figuring out what to do with my life, very lost. I’ve talked about this before in my videos. But this was the book that started that whole journey. The second book that changed my life is called
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It’s a pretty short book. It’s an easy read. And I think I just consider it a book that changed my life because it was one of the first self help
books that I read, and it was the first time that I was learning
about these concepts. The concept that really blew my mind in this book was: Don’t Take Anything Personally,
because everything that happens, what people say to you is not really about you. It’s a mirror of themselves. I did not know about this concept until I read this book, and this book really taught me how to stop
caring about what other people think of you. The Four Agreements he shares in this book
are so simple. I mean, there’s only four. But if you can remember those four and live
them in your life, then you’re already going to be so happy,
so amazing. You’ll be fine. What this book did was it taught me to look
at the world in a different way, in a way that I never considered before. It really taught me about other people and society. How we see things might not be the way that
they actually are, to not make assumptions. Maybe it was because I read it early on that
it was so mind-blowing, and also because it’s such an easy read that I really consider this an amazing and
important book in my life. The next book that changed my life is
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I almost want to say that Eckhart Tolle, as an author, changed my life because I love his other books too. A New Earth was amazing as well. But I chose this one because I’d probably
recommend this to more people than A New Earth, because this is more foundational and important. So if you want to pick up a book, definitely
pick up this one. This is probably the hardest book to read
out of all of the books that I chose today, just because it is dense and it’s one of those books where you’re going to reread the passage again
and again to fully understand. And you might not be able to fully understand
the first time you read it through. Anyway, it’s just a book about how to be present, how to detach yourself from your ego mind,
to recognize that you are the awareness, you are the consciousness behind
all of your observations. And I’ve seen Eckhart Tolle speak in person
at Super Soul Sunday, Oprah Winfrey’s event. And he is a modern day monk. He is so calm, he is so present. Everything for him is happening in the now. He’s really mastered that, and that is something
that is not easy to master. I’m still working on it. It says “A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment”,
and I truly believe that this is that book. The next book that changed my life is this one:
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. I know this is a crowd favorite among all
of us, but this literally changed my life. I loved the book when I was reading it because
Marie Kondo is so convincing that, once you declutter your things and go through all your stuff, then your life will literally change. I was reading this book in 2015. This was after I just started Lavendaire,
but things did not pick up yet. I felt confused on my path like, “Is this even worth it? What am I doing with my life?
Do I look stupid to all my peers?” My bedroom, my closet, my house
was cluttered and messy. We just had a lot of stuff. And listening to this woman give you a step-by-step
process on how to declutter your stuff, how that will change your life for sure,
she was so convincing that I was like, “You know what? My life kinda sucks right now and I have nothing to lose. Let’s go through this book. Let’s follow the steps here and see what happens.” And so that’s what I did. I documented my journey on YouTube. And after decluttering my stuff, I guess simultaneously, life started to pick up and I really felt
a fresh energy in my life. It changed my mindset. I learned how to be more intentional about
the things that I keep in my life, whether it’s physical things,
but also people or tasks and projects. I truly believe that decluttering using the KonMari way – because I went through the whole process – it
changed my life from the outside-in. You can change your life from the outside-in
or the inside-out. So it was just really cool that switching
up my space, clearing out all the junk, really helped me clear out the old energy
in me and in my life as well. The next book that changed my life that I’ve
talked about many times before is: The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson. This is the book that teaches you how to be consistent, how to take consistent action, how to stay
in the game for the long haul. You just have to read through the book because
it really convinces you that you have to be consistent, you have to
make it a habit. I think before I was just a very inconsistent person. It was hard for me to stay motivated on one
thing for that long. I’ve never been able to finish things all
the way through. I was doing music, I created an album that
I worked really hard on creating, but I was having a really hard time building that habit of showing up to make music every day, showing
up to write a song every day. So I was really frustrated at myself for not being able to stick to one thing long
enough for the results to show. Reading this book really helped me develop
that habit of consistency. It really is a practice, it’s a muscle that
you have to work out. It’s not easy and it’s still not easy to this day. But I really attribute my consistency with growing the YouTube for Lavendaire to this book because without this book, I’d probably have
given up in the first year or two. The last book that changed my life that I
think will help a lot of you out there is: You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero. This is a book to help you fix your money mindset. I know a lot of us won’t admit it, but we
have a problem with our money mindsets. A lot of us are taught that money equals bad,
money equals greed, it’s not good to have too much money. Whether you grew up with or without money,
you can still have that negative money mindset. For example, someone who grew up without money
might judge people with money and think that it’s a bad thing or they’re
so greedy, blah blah blah. By that, plus all of the negative money mindsets that were probably ingrained through their parents, they create a reality where
they won’t have a lot of money. They’ll just stay the same because their mindset
perpetuates that reality for them. Even if you grew up with money, you might
still have money mindset issues. You might have seen money create a lot of problems. You know, “More money, more problems.” So that might be in your mindset as well,
which might block you from earning more money in your life because
you don’t want to have those problems. There’s just a lot of issues that you could have with your mindset regarding money, with your relationship with money, and this book basically helps you debunk and work through all of those issues. It was so helpful for me. I feel like after reading this book – I used to have kind of a distant relationship or a negative, cautious relationship with
money because I always associated – “I don’t want to seem like I want to make
money because that seems insincere.” Or “I want to help people. And if you want to help people then you shouldn’t care about making money.” I used to think that things were mutually
exclusive like that. Or also “If I make a lot of money, people
might see me differently. My friends might treat me differently, so
I’m scared of that.” In that way, you’re blocking yourself from
a higher level of success and you’re blocking more money from coming
into your life because of all those personal beliefs and limitations. Anyway, after reading this book and doing
the exercises in this book, I rewrote new, money positive affirmations for myself. I would repeat it to myself. I listened to the audiobook version in my
car, so it was really going on. I feel like, after that, I released a lot
of those money mindset issues. And funny enough, my career has been picking
up and I’m making more money now. My life is financially abundant now and I’m
so thankful for it. So yeah, if you guys want to step it up with
your money game – and who doesn’t? – check out this book. By the way, if you’re curious about the money affirmation I wrote for myself after reading this book, it’s this: I love money and money loves me. Making money is badass and empowering. The more money I make, the more good I can
create in the world. Feel free to use that or edit it to whatever you like. But it was something that I had to ingrain
and change in myself, because even the first couple sentences,
“I love money and money loves me,” that felt weird to say in the beginning because I guess I didn’t want to admit that I love money. But money is just a tool, it’s just a resource. What was really key was detaching the emotions and the negative connotations from money,
seeing it as just a resource. And who doesn’t enjoy having more resources? Anyway, I hope that that made sense and I hope that helped you a little bit, but
definitely check out the book. Alright, so those are six books that have
changed my life. If you want to learn more about the books
that I read, I’ll post a link down below to my webpage
which has my favorite books and such. Let me know what your book recommendations are,
specifically audiobooks, because I felt like I’ve been in a dry spell
with books so far. The latest book that I read was The Inner
Sky by Steven Forrest, a book on astrology. After that, I haven’t dove into
another astrology book yet. And audiobook-wise, I just haven’t found a
book that really inspired me. So let me know if you have anything that’s
really good that you recommend, something really fun to listen to or really inspiring and something that will change your mind. Anyway that’s it for today. Thanks so much for watching. Love you all. Bye!
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I love Oprah’s What I know for Sure, audiobook 🙂
ohh I love your mantra about money! Thank you Lavandaire!
Oh wow the 4 agreements was also my first book I read about that subject(sorry for my english)
Young Adult readers may already be familiar with Esther Earl’s “This Star Won’t Go Out,” but adults should be aware of it too. The book gathers the writings of a girl who died of cancer at age 16, along with stories and reminiscences from her friends and family. Earl came to mainstream public attention with the help of author/vlogger John Green, but don’t think this book is an award winner only because of his contribution. “This Star Won’t Go Out” is touching and inspiring!
You are so calming to watch. I feel at peace <3
I recommend 12 pillars (Jim Rohn), The monk who sold his Ferrrari by Robin Sharma, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Loved these book recommendations! thank you so much for sharing 😊 I've had the power of now on my bookshelf for a while and now I'm motivated to finally pick it up. If you're looking for a quick inspiring book, I just finished a re-read of The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. I read it in high school, but I got so much more out of it reading it now that I'm working full time and have been out of college for a few years. Worth a read, or a re-read!
Thanks for you recommendations! Any books you read, I would read. I been reading the slight edge and it totally changed my life not a whole lot but slowly. Thank you.
If you (or anyone else reading this) is into spirituality, "The Indwelling Life of Christ" is a book that changed my life. It's by W. Ian Thomas and the idea is to read one chapter a day for 40 days….and each chapter is less than 3 pages long! But while the concepts are simple, it does challenge your thinking and mindset about society, pride and spirituality. It really is a favourite 🙂
“ You Can Heal Your Life” an amazing book helping you to live calm and happy
It's a famous book, but if you want something fun to listen to try out Freakonomics! I've also heard The Last Black Unicorn is good too. Love your channel, thanks for the book recs!
Hey Aileen 💜 I recently read The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, and it was BEYOND AMAZING! 💗 I have the audiobook for The Slight Edge, and listen to it on the bus when I am out and about! I also have Eat, Pray, Love and The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, but haven't read them yet ☺ Will definitely give the other books a read as well! 📚 My sister suggested for me to read Cameron Diaz's The Body Book, so I will definitely be adding that to the To Read list 🙂 Love your videos and your blogs! ❤ xx
I have to buy the books you've recommended. Please do more book recommendation ❤️
Have you heard of The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself? It's about freeing yourself from limitations and overcoming your boundaries while finding inner peace. I recently ordered it but haven't begun reading yet. It was highly recommended, and its a New York Times best seller.
This is so helpful. Thank you so much✨
Spanish subtitles are available! Thank you to the kind contributor listen in the description 💕
GREAT VIDEO , money is good , it s a necessity , you need it to do everything . Its a good thing to LOVE money , and do good things with it in the world . Open yourself to money and it will come to you
Girlboss is a very inspiring book
I have read 3 out of those 6 books!^_~ so now my next books In my reading list are slight edge and 4 agreements! Thanks for sharing!
Very insightful thank you I do have a few of them books but never gotten round to reading them yet I know bad eh..😜👍🙏
Pod casts
Great recommendations and affirmation regarding money. I appreciate the great content along with the inspiration and passion you put forward. Thank you!!
I think I do have a negative money mindset. Very interested in that one! Also, I have never actually read eat pray love only saw the movie – Love Julia Roberts. Maybe I should pick that up. Great video 👍
Thank you ! Love all your suggestions. I read the Four Agreements. These are so important and empowering.
The loved The Energy Bus!
Love all your videos! They keep my motivated and organized. Thank you taking your time to making these videos. 🤗😍💕
You have inspired me a lot. Thank you Aileen. Lots of love from Malaysia ❤
Come to Italy again 💕
Thanks Lavendair! Love from Pakistan 🙂
How can you detach emotions when dealing with money while saying "I love money and money loves me"? My issue with money is the huge difference with social relationship between having and not having a lot of money. Unfortunately an inside change is avoidable whether you gain money or lose it, spend it. But what is sadder is how people you know, neighbours, colleges, friends and even family change towards you. You understand and realize that most of them don't really love you, but they love what you can do and what you can offer. That upsets me a lot. I'm not saying that everybody you know will disappoint you, but maybe 3 out of 10 will truly be by your side not caring about the money you make or what you can do that's usefull for them and telling you "You can do this , girl!" and simply listening to you in your dark days.
i want to read books but i don't have the money :(((
You're really good at explaining what the books are about and reviewing them 🙂
I want these books in Hindi language. ..
Thankyou!
I borrowed the life changing magic of tidying up and my room looks amazing! I donated five big bags of clothes and miscellaneous items to a charity, and I feel great xx it’s so organised and makes my feel lighter and happier 🙂 I still live with my parents so my room was the only thing I could focus on, but I still feel accomplished! Can’t wait to read the other books, thanks!!
"Boundaries" great book to read!
Iam practising kondo Marie technique past few months… It changed my perspective….
I have started reading four agreements after u said… it’s practical
I loved Echart Tolle's books too 🙂 Michael Pollan's books changed my life by changing how I think about food. How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie is another for me, and the Tao te Ching, although I felt that Eckhart Tolle explained a lot of the Tao te ching concepts
There is one book that has changed my life comletely. It is Diagnostics of Karma (Russian: Диагностика Кармы) is a series of 12 books, written by Sergey Nikolayevich Lazarev.
But i don't know if it is in English. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diagnostics_of_Karma). Thanks to this book i got a sense of my life. And it saved me from many bad emotions.
I do have my favorite books that I love and changed my life. I’ve been struggling my first few years on my online business but through these books, it keeps me motivated and staying positive in every step of the way that I’m going through as an Affiliate Marketer. I love your books collection, Aileen! Will definitely check them.
I think you're a badass by Jen sincero with the yellow cover is one of the best books I've read in a long time, it was super relatable and It was so hard to put down
hi Aileen, what about Oprah Winfrey's book What I know for sure ? do you recommend this kind of book? thank you 🙂
do you know any good books about how to deal with criticism for others (even strangers)? Also i love your video's! they've helped me so much! greetings from Belgium! <3
Hello Aileen! I have visited your music channel before. I was surprised you have such a great voice! Keep singing
Moonology by Yasmine Boland is a great book about using the lunar cycles as a tool for manifesting/ goal setting and gratitude 😘
The Bible changed mine
affirmations only confirms lack of something at the subconscious level so how it can be a solution, it's like putting a band-aid on a broken leg
My mind is clear
My soul is happy
My spirit is free 😍💞💞
Mercedez Holtry is a great poetry writer and an even awesome speech person. I highly recommend her poems
I read also "eat, love and pray", "the magic of tyding up" and "the slight edge". I love these books and I've read them several times. After reading "the magic of tyding up" my life changed in better, definitely! Less clutter more joy 🙂
I also made a list of the books that changed my life and I'm so happy to see we both added The Four Agreements. It's just amazing ❤️ https://iwrotethat.blog/books-that-changed-my-life/
You should try to read Don’t sweat the small stuff and you can heal your life by louise hay. ❤️
Im still rereading The Power of Now lol definitely something to take your time with
I have or have read so many of these books. And although I have not read "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up", I feel like I have because I have heard so much about it on YouTube and I read a different de-cluttering book and I am trying to implement this. I have so much clutter!
I want to find someone that want speak with me in English, because I want to practice my conversational English! Is there someone that help me?
Good collection.. definitely I'll buy it… thanks
I have read most of these too! Amazing stuff!
I could appreciate this video more if the lighting wasn't so white and bright! Jeeez! Nice video tho.
I have read 2books above!!! Wanna try 4 books left
My personal favourite is "The SCIENCE of SUCCESS" by Napolean Hill
I have just finished the magic of thinking big by david j. Schwartz and wow it's one of the best books ever! It summaries everything that all the other book say and gives you tips for your everyday life! Highly recommended to everyone
Soooo agree with The power of now, it's one of my favorite, such an eye opener. But I had the same experience, I found it hard to read and sometimes I needed to re-read some sentences. I love getting to know new books, thank you for sharing. 🙆🏽🤗
The life-changing magic of tidying up——–thanks for recommending this one, i really feel like reading
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I love ur channel
This is probably the 3rd time I’ve watched this lol but one of my resolutions this year is to read more. I’ve read 2 books so far.. but 1 book I’d recommend, if u haven’t already read or listened to is WHEN by Daniel H Pink. It’s the scientific secrets of perfect timing. It was my first book read this year.
I will learn Slight Edge, thank you for recommend it!!
woah four of those are in my favourites too! I'm excited to read "The Slight Edge" now <3
I just found your channel.. Needless to say. I am in love with the content. Thank you! 🙏
I also like audiobooks nowadays I will try to look for some of these
Could you give a suggestion where I can get an audiobook of these books you told us about? If I can get then for free it would be nicer. 😅
I’m 16 and I’ve read slight edge and I am so grateful I discovered it so soon, I’m ready to start my life with ambitions and consistency
IM trying to buy more books focusing on self discipline so Im going to definitely buy slight edge.
The Richest Man in Babylon. I wish every young person read this!
you're absolutely beautiful and present yourself so delicatley! thank you for the recommendations (:
Your list is amazing
But there are no metaphysics!?!
Hi Aileen. Im tearing up just writing this because im so thankful for you and this list. I knew immediately that The Slight Edge was for me because all my life i have had such a challenge with being consistent. I start strong but never last. I am half way through this book and i can already see that this is going to impact the rest of my life big time. Its huge. So happy i found your channel. You have great content. Keep up the good work.
"The power is within yourself" by Louise Hay and her movie called the same (she has written 27 books), what she says it´s very powerful. "The power of no" by James Altucher. "A course in miracles" by Hellen Shucman . "Stillness speaks" by Eckhart Tolle.
You are just the right mentor and encourager that I'm looking for😍
This video is the reason why I started to read The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up and now my life has been better if I may say so. Thank you so much 🖤
You are amazing, your channel too! Just keep this work up. I love how different is your content, i can’t skip any video or podcast💜
I have the first three one and in my list, they are also in life-changing part so I think we have the same taste so I'm going for last three one especially because I want to start my blog. by the way, I'm a student in Milan right now and I love here. I followed you yesterday and happy to find you.
Well, Milan is a 'european' city, more than Italian. You should go to non metropolitan cities if you want to taste the true essence of Italy 🙂 and, obviously, to the southern part of Italy. 🙂 Just an advice.
You might like the Madame Chic books by Jennifer L. Scott!
Hi Ileen !! I'm from Italy, I always lived in Italy since I've been born apart from a month or two, when I've been abroad! The only place where I've lived out from Italy, is Germany! I've loved Germany so much, people there, are wonderful!!! I loved them so much!!!
I highly recommend for you guys the book " The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey. This book helped me a lot to overcome the difficult period time of my life. Thanks for sharing these fantastic books, Lavendaire <3
read book learn understand yourself …. keep up reading lavendaire
"BE A SILENT WATCHER."
Love that money mantra
Love Eckhart Tolle his videos are so poignant. Marie Kondo is the one which made me decide to not only declutter my life but to apply the Spark Joy criteria to everything else…people, work etc! I loved your video on konmari btw 🙂. I'll try the power of now 😊 ty Aileen.
Have you ever considered to write a book? I would love to read yours if you did!❤️☺️📚
The book that transformed my life
-inner engineering, a Yogi's guide to joy
thank you for making this video!
I end up loving you
you are so aesthetically pleasing i love you🥰
Amazing Life-changing book: 53 Keys to Personal Growth & Personal Development by Edwin Harkness Spina. Check it out!! Thanks for ur video 🙂
I watched this video a year ago and now I've read 5/6 of those books. They changed my life as well
I wanna a loy of subscribers as you:(:(
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